You could try. I'm not going to promise it works. Masturbation really doesn't do as much for me, believe it or not, not if the someone isn't there helping.

Kinks, though, are odd little things that people really like in sex. It's something specific that they like, usually not related to the act itself. Some folks like to be tied up. Some like to feel pain, some to give it. There's a lot of different ones.